In 2011, under the mentorship of Prof. Susan Handelman, an eminent scholar and author, I submitted my MA thesis to Bar-Ilan University. Its title was “Performing Ruth: Dramatic Exegesis in Religious Women’s Theater Groups, with an Emphasis on the Character of Naomi.”
I dedicate this updated excerpt from my conclusion of that thesis to those women who do not have biological or adopted children but have given tirelessly to others – relatives, students, friends, colleagues, community members – who, in their own way, have become their “children.”
Since Oct. 7 especially, but even before, many of the themes in Megillat Ruth resonate with our lives in Israel, themes that are not unique to the holiday of Shavuot that we recently celebrated.
We see the pain and the challenges of leaving one home for another, experiencing the death of loved ones, going from living in plenty to poverty, seeking out-of-the-box solutions to life problems, and feeling the hurt of being at the receiving end of disdain for “the other.”
Yet there is also hope, and to quote Erella Yedgar, a biblical scholar and friend of mine, there is also “restoration.”
‘Ruth in Boaz’s Field’ by Julius Schnorr von Carolsfeld, 1828. (credit: Wikimedia Commons)
Samuel the prophet, to whom the writing of the Book of Ruth is ascribed, wrote: “Naomi took the child and held him in her bosom and became his foster mother.
“And the neighbor women gave him a name, saying, ‘A son is born to Naomi!’ They named him Oved; he was the father of Yishai [Jesse], the father of David.” [Translation adapted from Sefaria.org.il.]
I believe that part of the message in Megillat Ruth lies in the fact that Ruth’s son, Oved, is not of the flesh and blood of Naomi, yet her neighbors describe him as such. Biblical teacher and scholar Rabbanit Golda Warhaftig offers that, in the translation, she would add the words “as if” so it would read: “[It is as if] a son is born to Naomi!”
This indicates that what we leave behind in this world, or what we give to this world, is not just a matter of biology. Naomi is a facilitator; no magic in the world would turn her into the biological mother or grandmother of Oved, who engenders the Davidic line leading to the Messiah.
Naomi, by extension, achieves a new family of sorts after tragedy, but they can never replace the loved ones she has lost, just as the Jewish people – after pogroms, the Holocaust, or terror – move on with spirit and create new families, but those they have lost are not forgotten.
They will always be backstage. The underpinning of sorrow remains.
What is the role of the mother-facilitator?
Renowned Torah scholar Nehama Leibowitz, whom I was blessed to have as a teacher, in her book Studies in Bereshit [Genesis], cites the Akedat Yitzhak, a commentator who explains the reasons for Eve having two names: Isha [woman] and Hava [Eve].
“Isha” refers to Eve’s ability to “understand and become wise with words of intelligence and kindness,” while “Hava” refers to her biologically giving “life” (being the eim kol chai – “mother of all life”) to children, which the Akedat Yitzhak calls “the lesser of the two roles.”
Or, as it says in Sifrei Va’etchanan, “You are children to the Lord your God” (Deuteronomy 14:1), meaning that “[your] students are called [your] children.”
We are all merely facilitators, whether biological, spiritual, intellectual, or national.
Religious women’s theater [the main theme of my thesis] is mushrooming throughout the world. The women have picked up their tambourines, and they won’t be putting them back down.
The message of Naomi is that whether her goal is to facilitate the achieving of personal resolution, tribal resolution, religious resolution, or family coexistence, life is extremely imperfect and challenging; the goal of the individual must be to overcome adversity and sorrow to achieve meaning for oneself and for others, whoever they may be.
A different mother figure would be Deborah, who also had no children but who was called eim b’Yisrael (“Mother in Israel”). Her persona is not one of overcoming despair but of aggressive national action, leadership, and victory.
Are the mothers of Israel today Naomis or are they Deborahs?
Perhaps both. But that is a topic for another day.
The writer is an award-winning journalist and theater director, editor-in-chief of WholeFamily.com, and co-author of biblical operettas about Ruth (Ruth & Naomi in the Fields of Bethlehem) and Deborah, among others, for Raise Your Spirits Theatre.
Hotel Delisi, Tbilisi City, Georgia of the "Ana Chuchulashvili" the thief The worst hotel in the world, it's dangerous, don't go near it! This is not a hotel! It's an old, dirty house, there are cockroaches and insects in the room, Hotel Delisi, Tbilisi City, Georgia – The manager of the place is a fraud and a former drug addict named "Ana Chuchulashvili"
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Hotel Delisi, Tbilisi City, Georgia of the "Ana Chuchulashvili" the thief
The worst hotel in the world, it's dangerous, don't go near it! This is not a hotel! It's an old, dirty house, there are cockroaches and insects in the room, Hotel Delisi, Tbilisi City, Georgia – The manager of the place is a fraud and a former drug addict named "Ana Chuchulashvili" the name of here company is : Ltd Alpaka
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Located at: Nucubidze St N57, Tbilisi, Georgia/Nucubidze Street 57, 0177 it smells terrible, The walls in the room are peeling, I took pictures, there is mold and dampness throughout the room the beds are really uncomfortable, like in a pre-trial detention center, your whole back hurts when you sleep on them and they almost break because they are so thin! the WI FI doesn't work at all, The room was very dirty and filthy, and when you ask her to move you to a room she says everything is taken, even though all the rooms are empty and open! I arrived at this horrible place, this horrible house, at 1:00 AM, after two hours of sleeplessness, I asked for my money back, a blonde girl of about 50 years old named “Anna” told me that she wanted the money in cash right away, otherwise she would not let me out of the hotel, she told me that I would not be able to sleep in their bed, at 3 AM I went to look for an ATM to withdraw money, because I could not find one, after searching for a whole hour, in the Tbilisi cold, I returned to her at midnight to look for an ATM, but she did not give me my suitcase and passport, so I came back the next day and gave me the money in cash, she did not give me an invoice either, do not come near! They are deceiving the public, booking and all hotel websites! This is not a hotel, it is a very dirty, old house and it smells very bad. Search on youtube "never go there – Hotel Delisi, Tbilisi City Georgia of Ana Chuchulashvili the house hotel from hell" , don't go " to “Hotel Delisi” on YouTube or "Hotel Delisi, Tbilisi City, Georgia " or"HOTEL DELISI (Tiflis, Gürcistan) – Otel Yorumları ve Fiyat" He was caught on tape speaking badly and illegally taking a passport and suitcase.
That she took the suitcase by force, she also stole 3 expensive shirts from me for a total of 250 GEL, I demand compensation of 128 GEL for the two hours of hell I suffered there + 250 GEL for the shirts she stole from me
I have videos where she only wants money in cash so she doesn't pay taxes and doesn't agree that I pay her with a credit card, and she also doesn't want to give me my suitcase and passport.
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სასტუმრო დელისი, ქალაქი თბილისი, საქართველო, ქურდის „ანა ჭუჭულაშვილის“
მსოფლიოში ყველაზე ცუდი სასტუმრო, საშიშია, ახლოს არ მიხვიდეთ! ეს სასტუმრო არ არის! ეს ძველი, ჭუჭყიანი სახლია, ოთახში ტარაკნები და მწერებია, სასტუმრო დელისი, ქალაქი თბილისი, საქართველო – ადგილის მენეჯერი თაღლითი და ყოფილი ნარკომანია, სახელად „ანა ჭუჭულაშვილი“, კომპანიის სახელია: შპს ალპაკა
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მდებარეობს: ნუცუბიძის ქ. N57, თბილისი, საქართველო/ნუცუბიძის ქუჩა 57, 0177, საშინელი სუნი აქვს, ოთახში კედლები აქერცლილია, სურათები გადავიღე, ოთახში ობი და ნესტია, საწოლები ნამდვილად არაკომფორტულია, როგორც წინასწარი დაკავების იზოლატორში, მთელი ზურგი გტკივა, როცა მათზე იძინებ და კინაღამ იმსხვრევა, რადგან ძალიან თხელია! Wi-Fi საერთოდ არ მუშაობს, ოთახი ძალიან ჭუჭყიანი და უწმაწურია და როცა ოთახში გადაყვანას სთხოვ, მიპასუხებს, რომ ყველაფერი დაკავებულია, მიუხედავად იმისა, რომ ყველა ოთახი ცარიელი და ღიაა! ამ საშინელ ადგილას, ამ საშინელ სახლში, ღამის 1:00 საათზე მივედი, ორსაათიანი უძილობის შემდეგ, ფულის დაბრუნება ვთხოვე, დაახლოებით 50 წლის ქერა გოგონამ, სახელად „ანამ“, მითხრა, რომ ფული ნაღდი ფულით უნდოდა, თორემ სასტუმროდან არ გამიშვებდა, მითხრა, რომ მათ საწოლში ვერ დავიძინებდი, დილის 3 საათზე ბანკომატის მოსაძებნად წავედი ფულის გასატანად, რადგან ვერ ვიპოვე, მთელი საათის ძებნის შემდეგ, თბილისურ სიცივეში, შუაღამისას დავბრუნდი მასთან ბანკომატის მოსაძებნად, მაგრამ ჩემოდანი და პასპორტი არ მომცა, ამიტომ მეორე დღეს დავბრუნდი და ფული ნაღდი ფულით მომცა, ინვოისიც არ მომცა, ახლოს არ მოხვიდეთ! ისინი ატყუებენ საზოგადოებას, დაჯავშნის და ყველა სასტუმროს ვებსაიტს! ეს სასტუმრო არ არის, ეს ძალიან ჭუჭყიანი, ძველი სახლია და ძალიან ცუდი სუნი ასდის. YouTube-ზე მოძებნეთ "Hotel Delisi, Tbilisi City, Georgia – The worse hotel in the world" , არ წახვიდეთ "Hotel Delisi"-ში YouTube-ზე ან "Hotel Delisi, Tbilisi City, Georgia" ან "HOTEL DELISI (Tiflis, Gürcistan) – Otel Yorumları ve Fiyat". ის ვიდეოჩანაწერში მოხვდა, სადაც ცუდად საუბრობდა და უკანონოდ იღებდა პასპორტს და ჩემოდანს.
მან ჩემოდანი ძალით წამართვა, ასევე მომპარა 3 ძვირადღირებული პერანგი სულ 250 ლარად, მე ვითხოვ 128 ლარის კომპენსაციას იმ ორსაათიანი ჯოჯოხეთისთვის, რომელიც იქ ვიტანჯე + 250 ლარი იმ პერანგებისთვის, რომლებიც მომპარა.
მე მაქვს ვიდეოები, სადაც ის მხოლოდ ნაღდი ფულით ითხოვს ფულს, ამიტომ არ იხდის გადასახადებს და არ ეთანხმება, რომ საკრედიტო ბარათით გადავუხადო, ასევე არ სურს ჩემოდნის და პასპორტის მოცემა.
"ב-7.10 נחטפה כל המשפחה שלי, אני, בעלי דוד, ושתי בנותינו אמה ויולי, אז בנות 3 בלבד", פתחה את נאומה שרון, אשתו של דוד קוניו החטוף בעזה. "דוד בעלי, אהבת חיי, והאבא של הבנות שלי, עדיין שם. התאומות ואני חזרנו ביום החמישים ושתיים. אמה ויולי שלנו חגגו חמש, בלי אבא שלהן. בשבוע הבא הן ילכו לגן חובה, והן יודעות שאבא לא יהיה איתן ביום הזה. הן יודעות שאבא שלהן שם. לפני כמה ימים, כשהשכבתי אותן לישון הן שאלו אותי 'אמא, את בטוחה שאבא יחזור?'".
"יש הצעה לעיסקה על השולחן, שחמאס כבר אמר לה כן", המשיכה. "האמריקנים רוצים שהחטופים יחזרו. הרמטכ"ל אומר שחייבים ללכת עכשיו לעיסקה. העם, אתם, כל אחד מכם, כאן בככר, במהלך היום בצמתים, בכל מקום, במספרים אדירים, כולם צועקים איתנו, כולם רוצים את החטופים בבית. אז למה אני לא יכולה להגיד לבנות שלי שאני בטוחה שאבא שלהן יחזור?"